How to Choose the Right Relationship Counselor

Posted: May 27, 2022

Did you know that couple’s counseling isn’t only for couples that are struggling? That’s right, more and more couples are choosing to get ahead of potential problems to create thriving and long-lasting relationships.

Whether you’re struggling or you’re just trying to improve your bond, a relationship counselor can be a huge asset. Let’s talk about how you can choose the right counselor for you. Read on to learn more.

Don’t Choose Your Personal Therapist

If you’re already in therapy, that’s fantastic. It’s a good idea for everyone to see a counselor at least once in a while to make sure that they’re on the right track.

You might be tempted to use your personal counselor as your relationship counselor, but this is a poor choice. The best relationship counselor will be able to approach you and your partner from a neutral standpoint.

It’s unfair to your partner to choose a counselor that only knows one of you. It may influence bias (even if it’s unconscious bias).

Search for Specialists That Fit Your Relationship

Not all relationship counselors, even if they’re fantastic, are suitable for every type of relationship. If your relationship has a unique dynamic, you’re going to want to pick a counselor who has experience with that dynamic.

For example, people in polyamorous relationships would benefit from a counselor who understands the complexities that come from that relationship style. LGBTQIA people need accepting counselors who won’t pass judgment on their relationships.

Many relationship counselors will list their specialties on their sites or profiles, but it never hurts to email and ask if you’re unsure.

“Interview” the Relationship Counselor

Counselors understand that choosing a relationship counselor isn’t easy. Relationship counseling as a whole is stressful, and you need to make sure that you’re making the perfect choice.

That’s why it’s acceptable (and even expected) for prospective clients to ask questions either via email, over the phone, or in an in-person consultation before committing to a counselor.

Ask them about their viewpoints on your relationship style. Ask them what they expect from you and what you can expect from their sessions.

You can talk about your goals and ask about what your counselor considers “successful” when it comes to the results of couple’s counseling.

In short, ask anything you’re curious about before you commit.

Make Sure You and Your Partner Agree

This is the most important part of choosing a relationship counselor. You and your partner must be on the same page.

Relationship counselors need to suit both parties. You don’t want one partner to feel unheard and resentful if their wants go unheard. After you consult with a counselor, have a long talk about whether or not they’re a good match.

Are You In Need of a Relationship Counselor?

Choosing the right relationship counselor is a challenge, but these tips can put you on the right track. With the right relationship counselor, you’ll be on your way toward a healthier partnership.

I want to help you mend (or just improve) your relationship. Contact me with any questions or submit an appointment request today.

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